Tuesday, May 10, 2016

The Absolute Truth to the Max

What I am about to discuss may possibly anger you, especially if you are guilty of what I am covering. Why? Because, it pertains to you directly. Please, read this entire essay and realize I am talking about 7.4 billion people on planet Earth, which includes you. If you really evaluate my words and take it to heart, this will save your life and the lives of your loved ones in the near future – guaranteed in writing!!!!!!

Recently, there was a news article about a baker who refused to make a wedding cake for a gay couple. He was found guilty in a court of law, since the Supreme Court of the US of Magog has ruled that gay marriages are the right of US citizens and are now sanctioned in all 50 states. That was disturbing enough, and I will tell you why shortly, but the comments below the article were totally ludicrous. The comments, which were completely in favor of the rights of the two men who were due to be married, showed the attitudes of the public at large.

Anyone who has been reading my blog for a while will know that I try to answer every question with: “What is Hashem’s opinion?” If I go to the Handbook of Life, the Torah, I see that within the 613 commandments that Jews are obligated to live by, two commandments that say (from the Artscroll Chumash):

Leviticus 18:22 You shall not lie with a man, as one lies with a woman, it is an abomination (this also pertains to a woman being with another woman as discussed in the Oral Torah).
Leviticus 20:13 A man who lies with a man as one lies with a woman, they have both done an abomination; they shall be put to death, their blood is upon themselves.
Does this mean that people of the same sex cannot be married and that we are required to put them to death? To answer I need to give more details about Hashem’s system in this world.

First of all, we must realize that the Owner of the Universe, the Creator of everything is merciful and only wants the best for us. The commandments guide us on maximizing our lives and getting the best for a tremendous eternity. We have a commandment called "Peru u'revu” which means: 'Be fruitful and multiply’ as mentioned in Genesis 1:28. This commandment tells married couples about one of the most important obligations that soulmates have in this world: to bring forth offspring and replenish the earth. Hashem made this act of procreation pleasurable to encourage married couples to fill the Earth as an act of love. Hashem also made it that we are tested, as we are with every commandment, to fulfill Hashem’s requirement without abuse or abominable behavior. Since two men or two women cannot fulfill this obligation, the thought of same sex marriage is an abomination to Hashem, besides being totally meaningless. The death requirement is for the most part in the Hands of Hashem, since He will remove any possibility of a tremendous future from the abusers of this commandment. There are more details to consider such as the old expression that: “Marriages are made in Heaven,” which simply tells us that the physical is not really the marriage, but the spiritual, the soulmates joining.

I would like to answer a question before it is asked of me.  Isn't it Hashem that made that person a homosexual in the first place?  Is it fair for Hashem to punish someone that He put in the situation?  Answer: Everything that happens to every individual on Earth is to test that individual.  Sickness, money problems, marital problems, a bad neighbor, employment problems, etc, etc, etc, are all tests needed by the individual measure for measure.  The Yetzer Harah temps and manipulates each of us according to what development we need to grow.  Why the test of homosexuality?  That is way beyond the scope of this essay, but it is what Hashem knows is necessary for that individual to overcome.

Homosexuality can be treated.  Hormonal, Psychiatric, spiritual guidance and other methods have been developed to allow the person to lead a normal life and overcome such an affliction.  But to openly praise ones shortcomings in life, be treated in the mainstream press with pride, organize parades, be praised on TV, the movie and books like it is a gift, to ruin the lives of children be convincing them that having two fathers or two mothers is OK, is all a violation of the Torah and is highly punishable.  To completely turn to Hashem for help and live according to His instructions, a normal life, is praiseworthy and is considered passing this test of life.

Since we are close to the time of the 2/3rd removal of the evil of the world, it becomes a written guarantee that the enjoyment people think they are getting from such abuse of Hashem’s will is so short lived and destructive.

One might ask: if the US Supreme Court has ruled that people have the right to such behavior, wouldn’t that put a different stigma on the idea of same sex marriages? After all even Noachides have as one of their categories of commandments: Establish Courts/Legal System to Ensure Law Obedience.

The answer to this must include a clarification of a concept that we have today in this world, especially in the US. The US began with a Declaration of Independence. It states that we have the right to "Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness." The phrase is giving us three examples of the "unalienable rights" which the Declaration says has been given to all human beings by their Creator, and for which governments are created to protect.

Did our Creator give us “rights” that we are entitled to? Absolutely not. He gave us 613 obligations to adhere to. Do I have the right to have my life protected or my property secured? No, I have an obligation to not harm another person, or to take his or her property. If we would all do our requirements, as Hashem has taught us, we would be safe from others harming us or our belongings being abused. Not only would the system work to help everyone, Hashem would make sure we are personally protected, measure for measure, according to how we fulfill our obligations to others. There is no randomness in this world. Whatever we do is what will be returned to us. If it is acts of kindness, we will be treated kindly. If we violate others and think we will get away with it, we are in for a surprise, even if it doesn’t come about until after this life is over. No law made by people could ever violate the laws of the Owner of this world.

We went through very tumultuous decades of the AIDS disease. Most of us are aware that Hashem sent a very profound message to the so-called gay community. Did you know that encoded in the Torah we find: AIDS, HIV, in the blood, out of Africa, from monkeys – all encoded in a very small space? It is found in the episode of Sodom and Gomorrah. Hashem lets us know exactly what is best for us; all we need to do is take advantage of it.

Let me expand this concept of fulfilling Hashem’s commandment to all 613 (for Jews and 7 categories of commandments for non-Jews). Do you know that a violation of the Sabbath could be punishable by death? Are you aware that not keeping strict kosher laws is a possible death sentence to your soul? We only think along the lines of this physical world and evaluate everything using our flawed human logic.

We are spiritual beings who just happen to be wearing physical clothing. It is not the opposite that we are physical beings that just happen to be with a soul. When you consider all of eternity, you may remember the space between my fingers:

That space represents how long life is on Earth. The space outside of my fingers is eternity. The space inside is the time that I happen to have a physical body; the space inside and outside is my spiritual life.

The commandments are an opportunity to perfect our souls. Hashem gave us the commandments with physical requirements as a way of accomplishing that perfection. It is a gift from our Father in Heaven. Even though the commandments are, for the most part of a physical nature, they are completely serving the purpose of helping and perfecting our spiritual existence, the real us. Our flawed human logic is useless in evaluating what our spiritual being needs. When we think that I don’t have to keep Kosher in this modern day, or I don’t have to pray three times a day, or I don’t have to worry about family purity, or I don’t have to worry about violations of the Sabbath or Holidays, or that I don’t have to worry about any other obligation that Hashem gave us, we are bringing on disaster that will carry on for eternity – a death sentence beyond our worse fears.

Why am I telling you all this? Besides the fact that I am trying to save your life, I want to explain how to get the most out of the few days we have left to get it all corrected.

Very simply put: I have mentioned again and again what we need to do to be happy, to succeed, to be protected, to go into an extremely joyous eternity beyond human comprehension. The simple formula is REPENTENSE, PRAYER, CHARITY, TORAH STUDY, HELPING OTHERS AND LIVING THE COMMANDMENTS. That is Hashem’s system in this world and that is the solution to all your problems and the ticket to an unbelievable eternal life, for you and your loved ones (who depend on you). How good are these benefits of life liberty and the pursuit of happiness? It is (here I go again) MEASURE FOR MEASURE, based on how we meet our obligations. Hashem gave us these commandments for our benefit. We treat this gift as though it is unnecessary for a good life. That couldn’t be farther from the truth and we won’t find out until it is too late.

It is so very important to understand Hashem’s instructions. Let me clarify by covering one subject that is so misunderstood and given such lip-service: Teshuvah – repentance. If I were to ask ten people what Teshuvah really is I would probably get twenty answers that may be close but still missing the benefits of doing Teshuvah.

I mentioned that following Hashem’s instructions is the key to total happiness and success. What exactly are Hashem’s instructions? The Commandments!!!!! Doing Teshuvah is not words, it is actions. If a Jew says we keep Kosher at home, but sometimes we go to a non-Kosher restaurant. That is a violation of the commandments of keeping Kosher. It is not a part time commandment, it is a lifetime commitment. If I asked you do you ever take poison? Would you answer: never at home, but sometimes when we go to a restaurant. That may sound silly, but come judgement day when you are told that you violated the commandments to keep a strictly Kosher diet, and your punishment will be ????, are you going to ask for partial credit? Doing Teshuvah is taking action to do every commandment as Hashem instructed. It is for out safety and benefit; why would we do less?

If I keep the Sabbath completely, but we occasionally drive somewhere, maybe to the Synagogue or to someone’s house for a Sabbath meal, we are in violation of the Sabbath and eligible for retribution. The only Teshuvah for that situation is to never drive on the Sabbath. Asking for forgiveness is meaningless unless one eliminates the bad habit.

Another area which creates a big problem is individuals who know nothing about Judaism or Hashem and want to make up their own Torah, chas v'shalom.  Take the Women of the Wall, please take them.  They are being paid to desecrate the holiest place on Earth in the name of Jew-hatred.  They know nothing about the number of commandments they are violating, but they will soon when they find that they have put themselves and their families in the 2/3rd group.  Their punishment will be severe.  I have said ignorance is not bliss, it is dangerous.  Here is an example of ignorance to the max that will be followed by tremendous suffering.  I have tried in the past to help them, only to be rejected.

One more example that is very personal for me. We read in the Torah this past Sabbath:

Leviticus 19:32 In the presence of an old person you shall rise and you shall honor the presence of a sage and you shall revere your G-d. I am Hashem.
The commentary says to respect a person who is over 70 years of age (that includes me). When I get comments that are as rude as can be, the writer is violating a positive commandment. Do I feel that I deserve the respect of all my readers, that I am so righteous and learned that you better behave? No, Hashem is telling you that it is your obligation to be nice, especially if it is an individual who is trying to help you and save your life. Does that mean that an evil person should not be given such respect? Yes, we have no obligation to honor an evil person, no matter what his or her age is. But, there is one other problem. Who are we to judge the righteousness or wickedness of an individual? If the evilness is known to everyone, such as a hitler, a Gog, an Obama, etc, run from such people. But, if it is someone who you personally disagree with, saying nasty things to that person, who may actually be correct on the subject, is a violation of a commandment. I am not demanding your respect, Hashem is. I am very happy to answer a question or explain a subject that I have covered, but just saying to me: “You don’t know what you are talking about,” is dangerous to your health and is the opposite of doing Teshuvah. If I am wrong about something, I certainly want to know since I would feel very bad about putting out improper information. But please, give me references, not your flawed opinion. Tell me where Hashem has given better information, for me to post the new information immediately, followed by some personal Teshuvah for the errors of my ways.

Enough said. In my quest to help everyone reading this and the rest of the world, let it never be that I am the cause of your forthcoming punishment because of one’s ignorance of Hashem’s laws, and the ability to correct the deficiency through Teshuvah. It saddens me, especially when a simple discussion could clarify a misunderstanding, and save the one who commented from the punishment of a Torah violation. That is the easiest type of Teshuvah available; why not take advantage of it? After all you are setting yourself up for the 1/3rd or 2/3rd group.

Deuteronomy 30:19  This day I call the heavens and the earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live.
This was just sent to me from a dear reader:


  1. I learn so much from all that you write and it inspires me to be a better Jew each day. Thank you!

  2. when are you going to do some teshuva?

    1. You obviously didn't read this post. The disrespect that you display in your comment shows that you need so much Teshuvah, or that you are trying hard to get in the 2/3rd group. Hashem reads all the comments I receive and measure for measure responds.

      You missed the part: "I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses." It looks like you made a very ignorant choice.

  3. First, we end up with laws such as we have today when we rely on our rational mind instead of the rules our creator laid down. I have a quote that I use often, It comes from the book Twerski on Spirituality by Rabbi Abraham J. Twerski. The quote is on my home PC so I cannot get it, but the gist of the quote is that Sodom deserved destruction because they made the will of the people legal. What ever depravity they desired became legal, so there was no way for them to do tshuva because they could not see they were doing wrong. It is nice that I read your post on my 42nd wedding anniversary. Hashem certainly had a hand in my wife and I finding each other, and although we did not have children, we have had a fulfilling life as we have helped others (who may or may not be considered our children if we helped them stay alive). Your post spoke to me (and did not make me angry even though there were places where I could see a finger pointed at me). Just one other thought. It has been said that people today scream about their rights and forget that each right carries with it an obligation. Frum Jews (and Noahides) in the world speak of their obligations and accept the rights as secondary. Our primary obligation is to Hashem. When we fulfill the obligations we owe to Him, then we have no need to worry about rights because He will be doing everything for us exactly as we need.
    Your posts have done me much good and I am thankful that I can read them and the comments that come along with them. I hope to get to meet you all in person when the fireworks are over.

    1. First, congratulations on your anniversary. It is a rare situation these days that someone is married that long and to the same woman, WOW! It does say much about your character and how seriously you take the Absolute Truth, the Word of Hashem.

  4. I haven't read this entire post yet. Regarding the comments in support of gay marriage, most "news" impose their own views and actively delete comments that oppose them, when they don't block comments altogether. That's because most people are sane. There are sites known to have a light touch when it comes to moderating comments. Liberal sites are not among them.

    1. You are absolutely correct. Mainstream news is all lies and deception for the purpose of degrading society. Homosexuality is perfect for degradation.

  5. You are wrong about the females though. It is not an abomination for two females to be together. I was told this by a Rav. I'm not saying that it is appropriate behavior but definitely not an abomination as it is for two men.

    1. As I have asked above, please ask me a question rather than telling me "You are wrong." That disrespect does not help my readers.

      Actually there are many references to lesbianism being improper. It stems from Leviticus 18:3 which is Hashem telling Moshe that the “laws” of Egypt and Canaan which the Israelites are prohibited from following, includes as an example that “a man would marry a man, and a woman a woman”—a clear reference not only to same-sex intimate acts, but also to on going relationships between same sex partners.

      Shabbat 65a/b refers to the father of Samuel (Samuel being the preeminent authority among Babylonian Jewry in the middle of the third century) not permitting his daughters “to sleep together.”

      RAMBAM clarified the halakhic position in his code, the Mishneh Torah (Hilchot Issurei Bi’ah 21:8). He wrote:
      “For women to play around with one another is forbidden and belongs to ‘the practices of the Egyptians’ concerning which we have been warned, ‘You shall not copy the practices of the land of Egypt.’ Such conduct is forbidden.

      There are others. The Torah reference is the most profound coming from Hashem.

  6. Hello reb Menahem, Hodesh Iyyar tov and an healthy summer to you and your readers.
    Here's an answer I found and the web about female homosexuality, from Rav Meir Zukerman שנת תש"ע
    הרמב"ם ב"משנה תורה", הלכות איסורי ביאה, פרק כ"א הלכה ח´ כותב באופן מפורש שהדבר אסור, והוא נלמד ממה שכתוב בתורה "כמעשה ארץ מצרים... לא תעשו"- אמרו על כך חכמים: "מה היו עושים? איש נושא איש ואשה נושאת אשה..."
    אין לוקים על איסור זה 40 מלקות (39) כמו על איסורי "לאו" אחרים, אך הרמב"ם כותב כי לדעתו ראוי שבית הדין יתנו מלקות מדין "מכת מרדות" דהיינו: מי שנוהג בניגוד לגזרות חכמים."

    So that even if it's not specifically told in the Torah , female homosexuality is considered by our sages as an Egypt custom that is clearly forbidden there. Even if we don't see this degradation appear in the interdictions concerning the women in the Torah its obvious that it contradicts much obligations (znut, tzniut, niddah, foreign customs etc...) a kosher woman is supposed to fulfill if she wants to match the exigences of our holy law: it logically can't go together, and so it's an obvious revolt...
    Bessorot tovot and thank you reb Menachem. Stay always blessed and courageous!
    Itzhak, Yerushalaim

    1. Thank you for the additional information. The information that I stated above shows where in the Torah it all originates, Leviticus 18:3, which is what is being referenced in the RAMBAM you provided.

      The most important idea is that it is the word's of Hashem on women being with women and that is all we need.

  7. "...to ruin the lives of children be convincing them that having two fathers or two mothers is OK..."

    To strengthen your point here, Reb Menachem, I would add that many kinds of practices parents consider OK will evoke righteous anger in their children as they grow up because of their ruined lives and sense of themselves - to take a modern, admittedly extreme example: women going to a sperm bank or something similar in order to have a child because, for whatever reason, they don't have husbands (or men in any sense - those with any sense will not agree to something they will have to take responsibility for later when they haven't planned on it, right?). Google Web sites by adult children produced in this manner, and see their anger for yourself because these people feel less than human for not being able to identify their father. How do parents expect to be honored and supported in their old age when they behave like this? Being a bad example in any way will come back to haunt you. Children of a certain age fully realize whatever situation they are in, and will respond to it. Only later do adults downplay to themselves the consequences of their selfish actions toward and around their children - and are surprised when the anger comes their way.

    Only true teshuva will begin to rectify the situation. G-d help us.

    1. What you are saying is very good. Hashem created human beings with needs. Mothers help satisfy some and fathers satisfy others. That is the normal nurturing situation.

      These days do we really have to ask why so many grow up with such problems? One can not be a complete person when some of the parts of life are missing, and that includes the third Parent Hashem.

  8. You pointed USA has gay couples. Are you saying that Israel has no gay or lesbian couples? I know several Jew men are gay in USA. I'm sure some Israel men are gay, too. Don't point to USA only. All nations have gay and lesbian couples. I agreed what you're saying that HaShem opposed gay marriage. We want the Messiah NOW!

    1. All countries suffer from this awful disease, but the US made it a legal institution by having the Supreme Court sanction legality in all 50 states. What's next unisex restrooms? Oh, they are already bringing that abomination into our lives.

    2. Reb Menachem, it's not unisex bathrooms that are the issue. In countries like Japan where space is at a premium, that is the norm. It is maintaining the pretense of separate men's and women's bathrooms and then welcoming perverts to decide which sex they feel like being, and use that restroom. It's not the same thing. And it is indeed an abomination.

  9. Rav.
    I live here in NJ and there is a particular store that many frum people frequent - BH it is not owned by Jews - they have officially made their store with unisex restrooms..... Hashem help us! So it's not something in the far off distance..... it's now.

  10. Hello!



    All the best!

    Luiz Felipe.

  11. Unisex bathrooms are also an issue and no self respecting woman, frum or baal teshuva or secular will be caught inside one. Moving on..although the Torah is clear that homosexual acts are an abomination to H-shem, these individuals must be treated with compassion and respect. My heart goes out to whoever feels trapped in a seemingly "wrong" body. Help and and spiritual support yes but scorn and hatred is so far from Ahavat Yisroel. Rav Menahem, keep up the wonderful job of educating us about the Absolute Truth. A big Thank You for everything i learned here and continue to learn.
    Ms. AP

    1. All individuals in this world who are afflicted with physical, mental and/or spiritual ailments should get our compassion and even more so, our help.

      If you remember my post on 30 March 2016, "Reality Check," it included how prayer works. One of the things that we pray for is: "I asked for love, and Hashem gave me troubled people to help."

      All problems in life are for testing which result in growth, the reason we are here. But, everyone's problems must be treated as my problems as well. If I am not here to help everyone, Hashem will not help me. Why? It is Hashem's design in this world that we act together as one to solve the world's problems, starting with the most minor problems of each of us, and building up to bring Tikun Olam (Hebrew: תיקון עולם or תקון עולם‎) (literally, "repair of the world", alternatively,"construction for eternity").

      We all benefit in having compassion for others.

  12. Off topic a bit, but what about people unfortunately born of indeterminate sex, ie have characteristics of both genders - who are in other respects ie intelligence, health etc normal. Where would you place them?

    1. The Talmud talks about such individuals extensively. It is beyond the scope of this blog, but is available for you to research. We are not talking a simple subject with simple answers.